024 Contentment-Because You Can’t Always Get What You Want

CONTENTMENT – BECAUSE YOU CAN’T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT

This week Sandy and Elisabeth talk about contentment, including the difference between the Biblical definition and the modern American definition, the difference between our needs and wants, and choosing contentment in good times and in bad.

LESSONS FROM PAUL

PHILIPPIANS [4:11]-13 Not that I am speaking of being in need for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I now know how to be brought low and how to abound. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.

Paul is writing this from prison. He has by all standards every reason to be discontented and yet the message he sends back to the church is not to tell them how good they have it but to remind them that in all circumstances we must find contentment through Jesus.

LESSONS FROM SOLOMON

ECCLESIASTES [5:19]-20 God gives some people the ability to enjoy the wealth and possessions He gives them, as well as the ability to accept their state in life and enjoy their work. The do not worry about how short life is because God keeps them busy with what they love to do, the little pleasures are distractions from the meaningless world

Solomon uses Ecclesiastes chapter 5 to warn us that money does not buy happiness but more importantly he goes on to tell us that the ability to enjoy life and be content is a blessing from God. The little things are the most important things and give meaning to a meaningless world. Pay attention to the little things. Choosing contentment will lead to a joyful life.

LESSONS FROM JESUS

LUKE [12:25] And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his life.

Here again we find another example of Jesus giving us a bit of science. It’s almost as if He knew how our bodies were supposed to work.

If you find yourself constantly having a negative attitude and feeling anxious every single day start a thankfulness journal. Every day write down 3 good things that happened that day. It doesn’t have to be life changing or profound just 3 things that were positive in your day. Your brain will begin to look for these good things and focus on them and slowly your whole perspective will shift and you will find yourself seeing things in a different light. A positive light.

CONCLUSION

EPHESIANS [2:10] For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.

Since we have eternal hope in Jesus we can be content with our circumstances in the here and now and we can do all things through Him because He created us to do good things and prepared those things for us so that we could walk through life according to His plan.

So find the good you were created for and know that He will give you the strength to do it.

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The Holding Pattern

As I type this, I do not know what day it is (update: I checked, I’m typing this on Thursday). My whole house is sick with some fantastic viral ick. My husband (the highly functioning autist with Tourette’s), who rarely gets sick, and has had a fever one other time since our daughter was born in 2014, has had a fever for 3 days. There’s so much snot you guys. Ugh. Everyone is grumpy. I have made two trips to Target for supplies, one trip to the pediatrician to check the ears, lungs and confirm viral ick, and as of last night, my own throat feels like it’s made of sandpaper. We’re all tired, we’re all grumpy, we’re all just hanging out, waiting to be well. There’s no way out but through. Waiting to be through, sucks.

I’m whining. This is a very first world problem, and I am unspeakably blessed that I have insurance and money for Tylenol and a mom who sends my child Amazon love packages of new crayons and coloring books. I am very grateful that viral ick is the worst ick we’re dealing with right now.

These last few days have reminded me of some past phases of my life when things were less than awesome. When we were completely broke, for example. When we were waiting for my husband to get a new job, sitting on the couch through the third trimester of a high risk pregnancy, waiting for my daughter, or when I was 26, waiting to test results to see if I had cancer. I have friends in Ministry who are waiting to hear about their husbands getting a job at a church, and friends who are waiting to be approved as foster parents. Waiting, waiting, waiting.

It’s a hard thing for such finite creatures who from a young age, are well aware that their time in this life is limited. Waiting to run in a new direction, waiting while healing be it physical or emotional, waiting through growth.

We’ve talked on the podcast about waiting when we talked about Zerubbabel rebuilding the Temple. There are other places in scripture that talk about waiting, and patience and one is in Isaiah 30. Here the scripture talks about warning God’s people against going into Egypt, being stubborn, and not waiting.

It starts with this: “Ah, stubborn children,” declares the Lord, “who carry out a plan, but not mine,” (can anyone besides me relate to this?), and goes on for 16 verses to talk about what happens when you don’t listen to God. Then in verse 18 the tone changes, and talks about God’s graciousness – “Therefore the Lord waits to be gracious to you, and therefore he exalts himself to show mercy to you. For the Lord is a God of justice;  blessed are all those who wait for him.”

If you’re reading this, and you’re in a period of waiting, I just want you to know God knows you’re frustrated. He knows you are waiting. He knows it’s hard. You have not been forgotten, you are not in some sort of cosmic time out like a bad child (unless you’re in the belly of a whale), and your Heavenly Father is not uncaring about your inner turmoil. You will be blessed for waiting and trusting in Him, even when it’s hard, instead of fleeing to Egypt (or going into work while you’re still sick).

023 Adulting and Jesus – Because We’re All Just Winging It

Adulting and Jesus – Because We’re All Just Winging It

In this weeks episode Sandy and Elisabeth talk about their favorite tips to surviving life in general. Food prep, time management a little of everything in this listener requested episode.

INTRO

Life is like a buffet. Not everything on the table is for you. Use discernment to choose what is beneficial to your life and what will just add more stress and make life feel even more overwhelming.

FOOD PREP:

Cook your meat. Ground beef, grilled chicken, taco meat, BBQ, whatever it is if you open your freezer and you see a week’s worth of already cook meat to throw together a dinner you get back at least 30 minutes of your day in prep time and the busiest part of the day becomes more relaxed and enjoyable for everyone.

Use Pinterest for good. There’s tons of great recipes for quick dinners, crock pots and insta pots if you can stay away from the home decor, crafts and birthday party ideas long enough.

Cook extra. Plan for leftovers. Sometimes heating it up in the oven instead of the microwave is all it takes to get your family excited about that leftover casserole.

Preheat/Pre-chill coffee mugs, travel cups and kids thermos containers to increase the amount of time your food and drink will be at proper temperatures.

Check your recipe before you start. That Pinterest meal will be a big Pinterest fail if you don’t have baking soda so check the list and check your pantry before you set yourself up for disappointment or failure.

TIME MANAGEMENT:

If mornings are stressful for you pick out clothes and shoes the night before and have everything laid out and ready to go. No arguing over what to wear, no missing shoes, no trying to find two matching socks that are clean slowing down your morning.

Leave the shoes at the door. If they get past the front door who knows where they’ll end up. Get a basket or box and leave the shoes in one spot.

If getting dressed is not a big deal in the mornings then think about what the biggest stressors of your morning are and spend 5 or 10 minutes getting those things ready. Set up the coffee pot, fill sippy cups and snack cups, get your grocery list written down, check the traffic patterns and the map for best directions.

GETTING THERE:

If there’s one thing I learned in my 10 years of commuting in Nashville traffic it’s that the fast lane is not any faster it’s just the place where people want to drive the fastest. Drive steady and go with the flow. Playing lane change leap frog is not only slowing you down it’s making everyone less safe.

Love the zipper. Especially if you’re in the South can we please exchange “manners” for following the rules of the road. You don’t need to merge at the sign that says road work 10 miles ahead and you don’t need to let 7 people over in traffic. Go to the merge point alternate every other car with the lane that’s merging. Everyone will get there faster if you learn to zipper.

Know how a 4 way stop works. If a stoplight is out it becomes a 4 way stop. It’s not a game of chicken.

CLEANING TIPS:

Norwex cloths work better than anything for stainless steel without any cleaners or polishes needed.

Silicone scrapers aren’t just for dishes. They work on wood and tile floors or just about any solid surface that kids or dogs leave remnants.

If you even get stuck with a vinyl floor that seems ruined. Grab some vinyl siding cleaner from Lowes and go to town on those floors. You’ll be shocked how well it works and makes a nasty floor like new (or at least tolerable until you get to replace it.

Fragrance free cleaning options: Seventh Generation, Biokleen, Charlie’s Soap and Method

The most important part about keeping a clean home is habits and pacing yourself.

Some times you’re house is just not gonna be your biggest priority and that’s okay. Take care of people first and then stuff. If you’re feeling overwhelmed and depressed about the state of the chaos try and get one thing accomplished from start to finish each day. If you can complete one task, clean one area, tidy up one room you will feel encouraged and successful.

BUDGET:

Online grocery shopping keeps you from impulse buying and makes price comparisons much easier.

Budget realistically. Look at your actually expenses. Cut back where you need to, plan for what you really spend and be honest with yourself.

Talk it over with your spouse. Not for permission but so that you can both be responsible for your financial well being.

Dave Ramsey isn’t for everyone. Find a budget style that works for your life and your family.

LIFE IS SHORT:

Don’t participate in mommy wars. You don’t know everyones personal, financial, emotional and medical needs. These decisions are as individual as the people making them. Just because something is the right choice for your family doesn’t mean that it’s the best choice for every family.

Read more. Read for yourself. Not just self help but also for entertainment. Read to your kids. It may be the most impactful (and easy) thing you can do for their developing brain.

Communicate what you need. To your spouse (and yes that includes sexual needs), to your kids, to yourself.

Make big changes in small steps. Taking longer to reach a goal is 100% better than giving up after a week because you set unrealistic goals for yourself.

Be patient. With yourself, with your kids, with your spouse.

CONCLUSION:

Growing up is hard and it’s something we never finish doing. And for Christians, in this life, we will never stop striving to be more Christ like.

ZECHARIAH [4:10] Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin.

HEBREWS 12:1-2 Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that has been set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him, endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.

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022 You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup – And God Doesn’t Want You To

You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup – And God Doesn’t Want You To

This week Sandy and Elisabeth discuss living life filled and overflowing, what Christian culture and popular culture want you to believe about it and how that compares to Scripture.