011 Hello It’s Me – What We Do On Our Phones All Day

HELLO ITS ME: WHAT WE DO ON OUR PHONES ALL DAY

COLOSSIANS 3:2 Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt that you will know how to answer every man.

This week’s episode is intentionally light hearted. Sandy and Elisabeth discuss what’s on their phones but more importantly how they use them.

WE ARE REAL PEOPLE

If you are worried that this episode is gonna be about how you should never look at your phone during family time you’re on the wrong channel.

Sandy and Elisabeth are moderately tech savvy women married to extremely tech savvy men raising even more tech savvy children. They use our phones. A lot. They make life easier and give us more time to do the things we really want to be doing.

APP SUGGESTIONS MADE IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Target – Grocery and Household
  • Whole Foods – Organic Grocery
  • Amazon – Literally everything
  • Walmart – Grocery and Online shopping pick up
  • Ibotta – Rebates on purchases
  • Clue – Cycle Tracker (It’s also Sandy’s favorite board game but that’s another episode)
  • Bacon Reader – Something about Reddit
  • Photo Circle – Photo sharing with friends and family
  • Baby Loggy – Logs feedings, pumping sessions, diapers, sleep, measurements, meds, milestones, foods and lots more
  • Baby Center – Your pregnancy week by week and your baby week by week
  • Wonder Weeks – Growth and developmental guidelines

CONCLUSION:

Use your phone wisely. It’s a tool. It should be helping your life not hurting it and you can probably find ways to help other peoples lives too.

1 THESSALONIANS 5:9-11 For God has not destined us for wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ who died for us so that whether we are awake or asleep we might live with him. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as you were doing.

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010 Reaching Out – What All Christians Need to Know About Suicide

Reaching Out: What All Christians Need to Know About Suicide

ROMANS [8:38]-39 For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

To believe that the act of suicide in and of itself condemns one to hell would require belief in one of two things: that in order for a person to be able to end their own life they were never a believer in Christ or that suicide is the one sin no covered by the blood of Christ.

We don’t believe either of those things. Join us as we discuss suicide inside the church, outside the church and in the Bible and how Christians should respond.

PSALM [34:18] The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.

Statistics About Suicide:

  • 10th overall cause of death
  • 2nd cause of death in ages 15-34
  • 3rd cause of death in ages 10-14
  • Women are twice as likely to attempt suicide
  • Men are 4 times as likely to be successful
  • Middle aged men account for 7 out of 10 suicides
  • Autism, Asperger’s syndrome and chronic pain patients are all at higher risk
  • LGBTQ rates are three times higher than national averages
  • 123 suicides every day
  • For every 1 successful suicide 25 more people attempt it every day
  • Around 3000 suicide attempts per day or 1 million per year

ROMANS [6:23] For the wages for sin is death, but God gives us the free gift of eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

The Bible doesn’t promise we will no longer have struggles or pain or sorrow after we become Christians. Even after we accept the gift of our salvation we are still sinners and we still deserve death.

It is a very physical problem and the only cure is for our physical death to occur so that we can be resurrected through the blood of Jesus Christ. We will be perfect in our new life. It doesn’t happen in this one.

SCIENCE OF DEPRESSION:

There is no real quick version of the Science with Sandy rant here but very basically if you think that a physician and/or medications should be involved with the treatment of hypertension or obesity then you believe that a physician and possibly medications should be involved in the treatment of mental illness. Trust us, you do.

THE CHURCH IS NOT IMMUNE TO MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES:

Why would it be? Even people in the Bible struggled with depression.

PSALM 69:3 I am weary with my crying out; my throat is parched. My eyes grow dim with waiting for my God. -David

RUTH [1:13] …my daughters. It is more bitter for me than for you, because the Lord’s hand has turned against me. -Ruth

JEREMIAH [20:14] Cursed be the day on which I was born! The day when my mother bore me, let it not be blessed. -Jeremiah (The weeping prophet. Wrote Lamentations.)

There were also multiple documented suicides in the Bible. Including multiple Kings of Israel. Kings who were chosen by God to lead the people, Judas, Bathsheba’s grandfather (King David’s Bathsheba) and Samson.

WHAT DO WE DO?

SELF-CARE: Make sure you are getting the care you need (See episodes 005, 006 and 007)

BE THERE: Physically if possible

LISTEN: It’s very important for people to feel heard

BE SERIOUS: Don’t dismiss or try to “fix” it, just take their feelings seriously

REACH OUT: Ask them if there is anything you can physically do for them. Create a safety plan.

FOLLOW UP: Depression is cyclical. Check back with them, especially if you see them pulling back from activities, family or social media.

PRAY: Focus on other people. Take their names before God

CONCLUSION:

EPHESIANS 2:8-10 For it is by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are His handiwork. In Christ Jesus, God made us to do good works, which God planned in advance for us to live our lives doing.

So in Jesus’ name. Go out and do good.

NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE:

1-800-273-8255

CRISIS TEXT LINE (US ONLY):

TEXT CONNECT TO 741741

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009 This is Halloween

THIS IS HALLOWEEN

THIS IS HALLOWEEN

HALLOWEEN!

HALLOWEEN!

THE HISTORY OF HALLOWEEN

Celtic festival of Samhain, co-opted by the Catholic church as part of All Saints Day and All Souls Day celebrated as All Hallow’s Eve.

Trick-or-Treat started as an Irish tradition of going door to door collecting materials for a village feast and bonfire. (Sounds like a good ol’ fashioned Southern Baptist pot luck to me.)

Cover the whole thing with a coat of American Capitalism = Halloween

In fact, Halloween and Christmas have remarkable similarities. Both were Christian substitutes for pagan festivals so that the Christians could participate in the celebration without worshipping false gods. (Basically a loophole.)

Fun fact: The Puritans thought both holidays (All Saints Day and Christmas) were tainted and didn’t celebrate them. They also allowed breast feeding in public. (Out of the three things I’m not sure why the modern church chose only to celebrate Christmas.)

SO WHY DOES IT MATTER IF YOU LET YOUR KIDS CELEBRATE?

1 CORINTHIANS 8:6-8 There is one God, the Father, from whom are all things and for whom we exist, and one Lord, Jesus Christ, through whom are all things and through whom we exist. Food will not commend us to God.

Paul tells us that it is okay to eat the meat that was sacrificed to false gods because we know that meat was sacrificed in vein. All things come from God. We come from God. All things come through Jesus Christ. We exist because of Jesus Christ. So don’t waste food sacrificed to no one. Enjoy the food that God has provided for you.

EPHESIANS 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

If you are going to forbid your children from doing something please make it a reason they can’t disprove with a 10 second Google search.

Halloween is NOT satan’s birthday. I just had to say that.

1 CORINTHIANS 8:9 But take care that this right of yours does not somehow become a stumbling block to the weak.

Using arbitrary “Christian looking” rules to restrict or force your children to do anything is weakening their faith. If they cannot trust you to tell them the truth about something as trivial as Halloween how can they trust you to tell them the truth on the real important issues of our faith.

CONCLUSION:

The Bible has SO many important messages for us to teach our kids, but it says right there in black in white go ahead and eat the candy. God made it anyway.

Don’t make it harder on your kids to understand the important concepts of the Scripture by weighing them down with rules and restrictions that are not backed up by the Word of God.

And don’t worship by the devil by not worshipping the devil. It doesn’t happen accidentally. The act of worship is an intentional act.

So don’t worship Satan and enjoy stealing your kids Halloween candy.

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008 Church for the Whole Family: Biblical Requirements, Realistic Expectations, and Practical Tips

CHURCH FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY: BIBLICAL REQUIREMENTS, REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS, AND PRACTICAL TIPS

Since both Sandy and Elisabeth have found themselves in a place where they had to change churches recently this week they sit down and discuss what exactly the Bible tells us to look for in a church, what they look for in a church and what to do when you just can’t go to church.

HEBREWS [10:25] Do not forsake the assembly as some are doing, but you should encourage each other, and even more so as you see the day of the Lord, when Christ will return.

CHURCH SHOULD PREACH THE TRUTH OF THE WORD OF GOD

EZEKIEL 34:7 So you shepherds, hear the word of the Lord. This is what the Lord God says.

If your preacher does not talk about Jesus it is not where you need to be. The Bible doesn’t rhyme and all the main points don’t start with the same letter so let’s go a little deeper than that folks.

IT’S OKAY TO LIKE YOUR PASTOR

People flocked to Jesus. He was likable. He was loving. He spoke in a way the people could understand. You have to get something from the message for it to impact your mission and if you can’t focus on what the pastor is saying then find someone you connect with better.

CHURCH SHOULD SUPPORT YOU TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN

PROVERBS 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

You train the child. Not the other way around. The church should be there to support you raising your children to walk in faith. They aren’t there to do that for you and they shouldn’t try.

TRUST YOUR GUT

This should go without saying but we’re saying it. Churches are full of strangers. Stay alert and keep your family safe.

JESUS MAKES HOUSE CALLS

MATTHEW [8:15] Jesus touched her hand, and the fever left her. Then she stood up and began to serve Jesus.

If you are in a place in life where the burden of church festivities is too much to bear, invite Jesus to come to you. He does not need a special building to speak to a broken heart, to heal the sick and comfort the hurting. Take the time to let Jesus touch your heart and then you will be ready to get up and begin to serve.

CONCLUSION

We are all created uniquely and will have different needs from our church leadership. Don’t settle for anything less than what you need because it’s difficult to go somewhere new. Church is not a checkbox it is a refueling station. Find the place that you can connect to and that will help you fill your cup to overflowing so that you can pour into those around you.

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